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Healing Shame in Couples

  • 24 Apr 2021
  • Online

Healing Shame in Couples: Undoing the Fear/Shame Bind, the Main Barrier to Love, Attachment and Connection

A Workshop for Therapists and other Helping Professionals with Sheila Rubin LMFT, RDT/BCT and Bret Lyon PhD, SEP

Online using Zoom – Live and Recorded

2 Saturdays: April 24, 10am–6pm and May 1, 10am–6:00pm Pacific Time

Cost: $395 full price / $375 with full payment by March 19 / Special price for interns 13 CE credits available – $40 fee (See website for details) CAMFT CE provider #134393

The more we care about each other, the more vulnerable we are to shame. Intentionally or unintentionally, we poke each other in the tender spots. Couples can shame each other multiple times a day, often without realizing what is happening. This can become a highly reactive cycle, preventing both people from getting their basic safety and attachment needs met. The more we become afraid of losing connection or not getting our needs met, the more likely this becomes. And shame can distort how we hear each other; the received message may have little to do with the message the partner is attempting to send.

In this workshop we will explore the blame/shame game couples can fall into and learn how to help them stop shaming each other and to work together to create a secure base and heal the wounds of the past.

We will:

  • Look at some of the many subtle ways shame can be triggered.
  • Explore shaming moments with great care so we can teach our clients how to avoid shame-based reactivity.
  • Learn the gentle art of counter-shaming and how to avoid triggering feelings of inadequacy in yourself or in another person.
  • Talk about, have compassion for and heal past shaming incidents within the relationship.
  • Help each person to understand, have compassion, and be there for each other—to learn to face the shame dragon together, to avoid shaming in the present and heal shame from the past. There is no prerequisite for this course. It can be taken by itself or as part of a sequence.


TO REGISTER, please visit the Schedule page at or use this link:

For more information, call Sheila at 415-820-3974 or email

For details about our complete training program in Healing Shame, visit our website, where you can also check out articles and free Healing Shame webinars.

The Center for Healing Shame is approved by the California Association of Marriage and Family Therapists to sponsor continuing education for LMFTs, LCSWs, LPCCs and LEPs in California – CAMFT-approved CE provider #134393. Courses meet the qualifications for hours of continuing education (CE) credit for LMFTs, LCSWs, LPCCs and LEPs as required by the California Board of Behavioral Sciences. The Center for Healing Shame maintains responsibility for this program/course and its content. 

Presenter Bio

Sheila Rubin and Bret Lyon are leading authorities on healing shame. They created the Healing Shame – Lyon/Rubin method and are the directors of the Center for Healing Shame, a continuing education provider that offers Healing Shame workshops to therapists and other helping professionals. They have co-led workshops on Healing Shame for over a decade, in many cities in the U.S. and Canada. Both have trained in EFT with Sue Johnson and in AEDP with Diana Fosha.

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