The Center for Healing Shame is an international education center and continuing education provider dedicated to serving the community by training therapists and other helping professionals how to work with shame.
Shame is perhaps the most painful of all emotions. It is at the root of both the inner critic and perfectionism. It binds with and hides behind other emotions, such as anger and fear, so that it is often hard to detect. Shame often fuels and promotes the negative cycle between members of a couple. Where there is blame, there is shame.
Shame is both a primary emotion and a freeze state, which has a profound effect on personal development and relationship success. While shame is often confused with guilt, shame is primary and exists in the body, while guilt is secondary and cognitive, relating to both shame and remorse. Shame can be viewed as developmental trauma. It causes much of the same physical and emotional freezing as trauma does. And shame often accompanies trauma, forming a downward spiral that is hard to break.
Many people go to great lengths to avoid acknowledging or even feeling shame—and this gets in the way of making progress in treatment. For many clients who don’t get better in therapy, shame—unacknowledged and not worked through—is the primary factor. Both therapists and clients need to be educated about shame: how it develops, what it is and how it works. And therapists need help in developing a working model of how to help their clients identify, work through and heal their shame.
The Center for Healing Shame is based in Berkeley, California. Workshops are offered in Berkeley, at various other locations in the U.S. and Canada, and online. There is also a full training and certification program for therapists. The education is designed to help therapists show clients how to recognize shame, work through it and move on by:
• Becoming more sensitive to the shaming often implicit in the therapy situation and learning how to counter shame in therapy.
Center for Healing Shame 2021 Winter/Spring Online Workshop Schedule
With Sheila Rubin, LMFT, RDT/BCT and Bret Lyon, PhD, SEP
Shame and the Body: Body Image, Eating Disorders and Embodiment – Learning to Love our Bodies at any Age – a Workshop for Women taught by Sheila Rubin, LMFT, RDT/BCT
4 Tuesdays: January 26, February 2, 9 & 16, 10am–1:30pm PST
Early Bird Registration Deadline: December 22
How Can We Heal the Shame, Trauma, and Isolation of 2020 and Step in to a New Era of Peace and Unity? FREE ONLINE WEBINAR
Friday, February 12, 10am–1:00pm PST
Using Interpersonal Skills to Heal Shame: Undoing Aloneness and Building Attachment by Matching, Joining, and Activating Mirror Neurons
4 Fridays: February 26, March 5, 12 & 19, 10am–1:30pm Pacific Time
Advanced 2: ShameShifting – Transforming Toxic Shame Into Healthy Shame
5 Fridays: March 26, April 2, 9, 16 & 23, 10am–1:30pm PDT
Early Bird Registration Deadline: February 19
Prerequisite: Must have already taken two Healing Shame workshops with us.
Healing Shame in Couples: Undoing the Fear/Shame Bind - the Main Barrier to Love, Attachment, and Connection
2 Saturdays: April 24, 10am–6pm & May 1, 10am–5:45pm PDT
Early Bird Registration Deadline: March 19
Melting the Shame Freeze: Building Resilience, Resources, and a Return to Safety and Connection
2 Saturdays: May 15, 10am–6pm & May 22, 10am–5:45pm PDT
Early Bird Registration Deadline: April 9
Healing Shame in Inner Children and Actual Children
4 Fridays: June 11, 18, 25 and July 9, 10am–1:30pm PDT
Early Bird Registration Deadline: May 7
All workshops provide exciting new insights in how to work with shame and include a combination of lecture, discussion and experiential learning. See the website for workshop descriptions, free articles and webinars, and information about our Healing Shame Practitioner Certification Program.
Dates subject to change.
Workshops have no prerequisites, except for Advanced 2: ShameShifting, which is for advanced students who have taken two or more of our Healing Shame workshops.
CE credits available.
Pricing: All workshops, except Advanced 2: ShameShifting, are $395 full price or $375 with full payment by the Early Bird Registration Deadline. The 5-week advanced workshops are $450 full price or $420 with full payment by the Early Bird Registration Deadline. Discount for interns. $40 fee for CE credits. Register online with full payment or a $100 deposit through the Schedule page at www.HealingShame.com.
Cancellation Policy: There are no refunds. You may apply the cost towards a later workshop with a $20 administrative fee plus any increase in price.
For more information, contact Sheila Rubin at Sheila@HealingShame.com or Bret Lyon at Bret@HealingShame.com.
The Center for Healing Shame is approved by the California Association of Marriage and Family Therapists to sponsor continuing education for LMFTs, LCSWs, LPCCs and LEPs in California – approved CE provider #134393. Online courses meet the qualifications for 13 hours of continuing education credit. The Center for Healing Shame maintains responsibility for this program/course and its content.
You can register online with full payment or a $100 deposit through the Schedule page at HealingShame.com.
For more information, please contact Sheila Rubin at 415-820-3974 or Sheila@HealingShame.com.
Sheila Rubin and Bret Lyon are the founders of the Center for Healing Shame. They have been at the forefront of guiding mental health professionals to recognize and move through shame with their clients.
Sheila is a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, a Registered Drama Therapist and a Board Certified Trainer. She has developed therapy techniques that integrate AEDP, EFT, drama therapy and somatic therapy to work with the all-pervasive shame and trauma that underlie eating disorders, addictions and toxic family dynamics. Sheila has served as adjunct faculty at JFK University and the California Institute of Integral Studies. Her expertise, teaching, and writing contributions have been featured in numerous publications, including six books.
Sheila offers therapy through her private practice in Berkeley and also offers consultation to therapists over Skype.
Bret Lyon, PhD, SEP has been a teacher of Somatic and Emotional Mindfulness for over 30 years and holds doctorates in both Psychology and Drama.
He is certified in Focusing and Somatic Experiencing® and has trained in EFT with Sue Johnson, in AEDP with Diana Fosha and in Coherence Therapy with Bruce Ecker.
Bret has also trained in Reichian Breathwork with Al Bauman, who worked directly with Wilhelm Reich. He finds his theater background very helpful with clients and especially in giving presentations.
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